LETTER TO MY DAUGHTER

I wish many things for you,  success, health and a meaningful life but above all I hope that you grow up to be a strong and firm woman.
My reason for that is because I have seen how cruel life can be, just how difficult things can be and I know that despite how much I love you, I cannot always be there to protect you and as much as I would love to carry your burdens for you, I won't always be able to do that.

 

So I hope that if I can get anything right in this life,  that it be how I taught you that there is nothing you can't overcome. I can never prepare you enough,  because no matter how many times we face challenges in our lives, they still hit us with the same intensity and we never feel prepared. But never forget the power that lies within you and the strength that you possess because that will ensure you are never tempted to quit no matter what you come across.

 

You will fail and that's okay, I didn't make it this far in life by always getting it right. Sometimes we have to fall flat on our faces to learn whatever it is that we need to learn. Failure is a teacher, it gives you experience that you can never get from books. When you fall know that it is not the end, get up and shake the dirt off and look forward still to life and all the beauty in it. Failure should never make you afraid to try again, to put yourself out there and continue on your race. If and when you do fail at something, that shouldn't be the scale you use to weigh your worth but rather it should be an opportunity to look at alternatives that you didn't see before, to try other methods till you get it right. The lessons you gather from your failures will make you a better person and yes it won't always feel that way but trust me,  I know that for a fact.

 

You will get hurt and your heart will get broken, sometimes so bad that even taking your next breath seems difficult. That's okay too. Sometimes we need to hurt in order to re-invent ourselves. When it feels like all the pieces off your heart are scattered on the floor, you have the advantage of picking them up and putting them back together in a way that suits you. That means, you get another chance to choose the person that you want to be. Hurt will come in many forms and some instances will hurt way more than others but you will always heal. Trust me again on this one, I know. Just as people will hurt you, you too will hurt others, some intentionally but most times without even being aware. That's okay, we all have flaws and make mistakes. Forgive yourself and don't hold on to the guilt and shame, ask for forgiveness and receive it from God even if the person you have hurt chooses not to give it to you. We live and we learn.

 

Be you. Whatever you is or means. Not everyone will embrace you or accept you and that's okay. Remain true to what you feel and stand firm in your beliefs. We seldom have to change for the people who genuinely love us so always believe that by being completely and honestly you, the right people will gravitate towards you and love what they get when they arrive. Society will always have rules on how you should live and what you should do, if anything feels vaguely uncomfortable to you, choose to disregard it. Make choices that you can live with,  not ones that make you popular. If you can go to bed at night knowing that you did your best and put no one in harm's way, you would have done your part.

 

I said in the beginning life is cruel but the truth is life is beautiful. Just not always packaged in a way that we agree with. Doesn't matter what cards you are dealt, wake up everyday and show up with a smile and always give to life what you want it to give back to you.

 

I love you Miss Universe

DONT FALL IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN WHO READS

I came across this poem on the internet and just had to share. The original version was written in Spanish and someone else took the time to translate it for our reading pleasure. I did not get who the original writer is:

Don’t fall in love with a woman who reads, who feels intensely, a women who writes…..

Don’t fall in love with an educated, magical, delirious, or crazy woman.
Don’t fall in love with a woman who thinks, who understands what she knows and also knows how to fly, a woman sure of herself.
Don’t fall in love with a woman who laughs or cries while making love,
That knows how to turn into spirit her flesh, let alone one that loves poetry (those are the most dangerous), or one that spends half an hour contemplating a painting and doesn’t know how to live without music.
Don’t fall in love with a woman interested in politics, is rebellious, and
Feels an immense horror from injustices. One that doesn’t like TV at all.
Nor a woman who is beautiful, regardless of the features of her face or her body.
Don’t fall in love with an intense, playful, lucid, and irreverent woman. You don’t want to fall in love with a woman like that, because when you fall in
Love with a woman like that, whether she stays with you or not, whether she loves you or not,
From a woman like that you never recover.

TRIBUTE TO MAMA

Today my late mother would have celebrated her birthday. I wrote a little something in her memory:

I still remember the last day I saw
A vision so vivid it was feels like yesterday
If only I knew that it would be the last time I see you
What would I have done differently?
What would I have said?
Time gone by but the memories still fresh
How I wish God would have granted us just a little bit more time together
So far away yet so near in my heart
The place where you still live and reside
Didn't they tell me time heals all wounds
They lied. They lie.  They don't know what they speak off
Time doesn't heal
Only makes it bearable to live without you
But the void ever large in my life
Nothing has even began to fill the space you left
So many questions and no one to pose them to
Are you proud of the woman I have become?
Are you proud of the mother that I am to your grandchild?
Are you proud of the way I have lived my life?
I will never know
The answers I will never find
But through the pain I wake up everyday
And hope to be half the woman you were
I continue to celebrate you
Because I am only because you were
You live on
In our spirits and the bonds we continue to share
You died but through us you live eternally