You know what I liked about Khanyi Mbau back then when she was still chasing fame and wealth? She was unapologetic about it. You look at her now and see that she's grown so much over the years and made so many changes but even then when her behaviour wasn't exactly a "norm" she lived by her own rules and never pretended to be anything that she wasn't. Whether you agreed or not wasn't the point, she stuck to what she wanted and believed at the time.
Now I don't get people who know they are one thing but act to our faces like they are something completely different. People who try to uphold standards set by society only as far as we can see but turn around and do what is truly them in private. People who say what sounds right and acceptable when they don't really believe in it. Whose fooling who here?
We all need to come to a place where we stick to our truth, whatever it may be instead of trying to please the people around us by doing what they want while not even doing it at all, just merely pretending so that they think the right things about us. Given that we all show different sides to who we are depending on the people we are with but at the core of it all, needs to lie who we truly are. We can't be preaching one thing and doing another, saying this but doing that.
We all need to come to a place where we stick to our truth, whatever it may be instead of trying to please the people around us by doing what they want while not even doing it at all, just merely pretending so that they think the right things about us. Given that we all show different sides to who we are depending on the people we are with but at the core of it all, needs to lie who we truly are. We can't be preaching one thing and doing another, saying this but doing that.
I would rather someone be true and show me all of them and give me the fair choice to decide if I want to associate with them or not. Not someone who says and does what they think will gain them my approval while having no intentions to live by those things when I turn my back and look the other way.
I don't know if it's a quote out there or something I made up in my overworking mind but at any time you lie, you may deceive the rest of us but the biggest lie you tell is the one you tell yourself. It's too much of a burden to try and live life wanting to please others and living a lie in the process. Just be yourself, whatever your self is. It may not make you favourable but you can at least live knowing that you aren't ashamed of the choices you make and how you behave, you owe yourself that much. Don't try and win us over with lies, don't portray yourself in any way other than the one that is a true reflection of who you are.
